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- Disappointed Expectations: The Obstacle of “No Guarantee”
Reading about the history of retirement as a life-stage in the industrialized world, I realized that the expectations held by most of us, born after the Second World War, were “givens” or “truths” that were incredibly new as social phenomena. In fact, funded retirement from work-life only emerged in the mid 19th century, modeled on [...]
- Productive Hate
Some weeks back, I discussed the connection of flow—- as the integrative, passionate engagement of competence and skills toward a discrete task —- with an internal, late-life correlate to the mother-child relationship, now freed from external dependency on institutional facilitation or permission. That is, the freedom to demonstrate pleasurably one’s skills and competence. Certainly, from [...]
- When Internal Space Meets the Outside
It was one of those perfect days. And I chanced to fall asleep, mid-afternoon. Waking, looking out at a perfectly placid and receptive Manhattan, I had one of those connective moments of thought that are each time, new and precious. It connected “flow”, that psychological sense of competence, challenge and contentment, with another, more developmental [...]
- DayTrading & Managing Our Own Minds
Increasingly, clients have described their turn to trading in volatile and uncertain markets, as their corporate incomes have vanished and their assessments of possible return to their former workforce positions have darkened. Day trading. Paradoxically, they have embraced uncertainty as their former sense of loyalty to firm and task has been disappointed. Their “security”, they [...]
- Career Anxieties
This is how she remembered what her husband had said: ” Your preoccupation with work is destroying this family. We can’t take how wretched you’ve become.” And as she told it, she’d successfully kept her underlying depression at bay for years. But 18 months of unemployment— which were the busiest months of her life as [...]
- Becoming a (Professional) Executive Life Coach
Perception is everything. And sometimes, it takes a bit of questioning for our own perceptions to align with others’. Recently, a client informed me that I was an Executive Life Coach. She of course, was the executive. And it was her life that I was coaching. She recognized too, that while she might otherwise call [...]
